My favorite photographer in London

If you live in London, England and you are looking for a fantastic photographer for a Bar/Bat Mitzvah, a wedding, engagement, a bris or any other family or communal function – you might as well stop your search right now.  Because I have found your girl!  Her name is Lara, her website is http://www.larasphotography.co.uk/ – and after you have taken one look at it, you will know why I am raving about her services!  With the click of a lens Lara has the incredible ability to capture time, life and emotion.

Just look how she captured the excitement here:

Bar Mitzvah boy dancing

Bar Mitzvah boy dancing

 

And see how she gets the emotion here:

At engagement party

At engagement party

Since we have a growing number of UK visitors to our website, I thought it would be helpful if I opened a lens into Lara’s work (excuse the pun).  I contacted her with some questions, and this is what she told me:

Q: Where do you work?

A: My studio is based in Hendon but I work wherever the functions are  – all over London, Herfordshire, up north etc.

Q: What sort of events do you photograph?

A: I do all functions baby parties, brit milahs, bar/bat mitzvahs, weddings, anniversaries, birthdays.

Q: Anyone looking at your work can tell you have talent and a magic touch, what do you think makes your work special?

A: I have been blessed with an arty eye & one for detail. As a photographer I strive to be everywhere- but at the same time to be discreet and not to get in the way.  I blend in and photograph the simcha as it is. Before the simcha even begins I create lovely portraits of the family, and I know that my photos are always cherished.

(And now for a quick photo break)

Bat Mitzvah photos

Bat Mitzvah photos

Q: What do you like best about your line of work?

A: I just love capturing simcha – happiness, fun and laughter. It’s amazing to be apart of so many lovely things. Put it like this – I am always smiling behind my camera.

Q: What advice would you give to Londoners looking for a photographer for a bar/bat Mitzvah, an engagement, a wedding or any other function?

A: The best advice I would give is to make sure firstly that you like the photographer’s work and secondly to make sure you like them!  Your photographer will be around you the whole day/evening and then you will be dealing with them afterwards, so be sure you are comfortable with their company.

Q: What’s the best feedback a client has given you?

A: I am so lucky to get fantastic feedback from most of my clients but I keep on going back to read this letter – I was the photographer at the baby’s bris:

Lara- I just had to write to you- I was just looking at the pictures from David’s bris and had to tell you how BRILLIANT they are- you really captured the emotion of the day- all the tears and the smiles, the family unity, not to mention the sheer joy that we all felt to finally be there celebrating the long awaited event!”

So readers in London, if it’s party time and you need a fantastic photographer – then don’t hesitate to check out Lara’s fabulous work at http://www.larasphotography.co.uk/

 

Bris Photo's

Bris Photo's

 

 

Batmom Blog:The pot of gold, the rainbow path, and the Bat Mitzvah!

In a wonderful tale spun by the makers of Irish mythology, the leprechaun hides a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.  I don’t know how many fortune seekers set off on the rainbow path to find the treasure, but I do know that their journey must have been an interesting one. As Batmom, the surprising superhero, I have taken the liberty to briefly “borrow” the rainbow path from Irish folklore.  I need it for one year and I promise to return it when I’m done.

 

Batmom stealing the rainbow path

Shhh...that's me stealing the rainbow path

You see, as mother of the bat mitzvah girl, I have been thinking about the meaning of Bat Mitzvah.   I know that it’s a landmark which symbolizes the girl’s newfound privilege of playing a full role in Jewish life. But what is a girl supposed to actually “do” to be Bat Mitzvah?  Is there a ritual that she needs to undergo? Is there a message that she needs to “get”?  I came to the conclusion that the Bat Mitzvah is relatively un-proscribed – there are no set ceremonies or rituals, and it therefore open to personal creativity.  At the same time, in the broad array of Jewish life, there are a myriad of messages that a Bat Mitzvah girl can and should receive as she is integrated into the community.  To mention just a few: Torah, family, tradition, Chesed, commitment to community, continuity and Tikkun Olam.  So Batdad, Batgirl and I decided to create our own Bat Mitzvah ritual which will involve finding some of these messages wherever they may be.  This is the journey that we will be taking this year, and like the rainbow path image, it has multiple paths all leading to the same destination – a Bat Mitzvah ceremony of our own design.

The rainbow path

The rainbow path towards to pot of gold

Batgirl and I have compiled a list of people and places that may offer a Bat Mitzvah message.  Over the next year we will gradually visit teachers, grandparents, role models, leaders and friends with the aim of asking them what they think is the Bat Mitzvah message.  Since we are privileged to live in Israel, we will also visit places like the Kotel, Har Herzl and Kever Rachel, and we will be going further afield to places like Caesaria to revisit Hannah Senesh to find out what she has to tell us.  We are even planning on going as far as my hometown Cape Town (Batgirl has chosen this in lieu of a Bat Mitzvah party) perhaps we will find a Bat Mitzvah message on the slopes of Table Mountain!  Actions speak louder than words – and so over the next year, we will be participating in activities like packing food boxes for the needy or serving meals at a soup kitchen and at these stations too we’ll be thinking about what we must take home as Jewish adults.

Is there a Bat Mitzvah message on the slopes of Table Mountain

Is there a Bat Mitzvah message on the slopes of Table Mountain?

Yes, we have a long and exciting year ahead of us, but readers – don’t worry, you won’t be kept in the dark.  Through this blog, you can join Batmom (yes that’s me), Batgirl and the rest of us in the Batfamily as we journey towards the Bat Mitzvah pot of Gold.  And if you stick with us, there will be a wonderful surprise in store when we finally get there!

What do you think is the most important Bat Mitzvah message?  Who or what would you like to take your Bat Mitzvah daughter to meet?  I’d love to hear!

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A different kind of Bar/Bat Mitzvah celebration!

OK, OK – this is an attempt at being lighthearted!  Personally, I think it’s great!

Harvey wanted to celebrate his son Josh’s Bar Mitzvah in a unique and spectacular way.  None of that “keeping up with the Goldbergs” for him – Harvey was The Trendsetter himself!

Having looked into a Bar Mitzvah cruise and a Bar Mitzvah Safari, he decided that his big surprise would be a Bar Mitzvah in space!  He would rent a spaceship and Josh would be the first Bar Mitzvah space boy.

Space Theme Bar Mitzvah

Space Theme Bar Mitzvah from zimensioncards.com

When the big day came, the spaceship took off with his family, friends and Rabbi.  They had a wonderful time, and when they returned, the local Jewish press was waiting to find out all about the journey.

The first person off the shuttle was the Zaydie.
“How was the service?” the reporter inquired.

“Not bad,” she replied.
“And how was Josh’s speech?”
“Not bad.”
“So how was the food?”
“Not bad.”
“Everything was just not bad? Why aren’t you more enthusiastic? What went wrong?”

Zaydie sighed and replied: “There was no atmosphere.”

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A beautiful and ancient Bat Mitzvah Prayer

Bat Mitzvah prayer

Bat Mitzvah Prayer, image from pearleditions.com

The following prayer is from the Talmud, and the beautiful text is as meaningful today as it was over 2000 years ago when it was first written and is appropriate to be quoted at a Bat Mitzvah ceremony.

Talmud Berachot 17a – Lawrence Kushner, Translator

May you live to see your world fulfilled,
May your destiny be for worlds still to come,
And may you trust in generations past and yet
to be.
May your heart be filled with intuition
and your words be filled with insight.
May songs of praise ever be upon your tongue
and your vision be on a straight path before you.
May your eyes shine with the light of holy words
and your face reflect the brightness of the heavens.
May your lips speak wisdom
and your fulfillment be in righteousness
even as you ever yearn to hear the words
of the Holy Ancient One of Old.

All about the Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Ceremony

Many Bat Mitzvah girls choose to have a Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Ceremony at their Bat Mitzvah’s.  This is a very special ceremony which allows the Bat Mitzvah girl to dwell on people or ideas are important to her.  What is especially nice about the Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony is that it is very flexible and you can use your own ideas to adapt it to what is important to your family.

Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Ceremony

Bat Mitzvah Candle Lighting Ceremony from partiesbypanache.com

The basic structure of the Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony includes choosing how many candles you would like to light.  Most Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremonies have thirteen candles to represent the Bat Mitzvah’s girl’s age, with one for next year.  Then you decide what important people are going to be invited to light candles, and the order in which they are called. Many people first light a memorial candle for those who are no longer with us, then they honor grandparents, aunts and uncles, then cousins, older relatives and younger relatives. Finally, family friends, child’s friends, siblings and parents are invited to light. Sometimes the Bat Mitzvah girl will light the final candle.

During the ceremony each honoree that lights is accompanied by background music which is relevant to them, let the DJ or band know ahead of time what you have chosen and they will play it for you.

Traditionally the girl or her parents will write a poem (which rhymes or in free verse) for each person or group who is lighting a candle.  You should personalize this poem, add identifying details and mention something about the relationship and influence they have had on you.

It is a nice idea to donate a small amount to a favorite charity for each candle, in the name of the person you are calling.

More Bat Mitzvah candle lighting ceremony tips

  • Keep the ceremony short and quick
  • You can decorate the candle stand in the theme of the Bat Mitzvah
  • Make sure that the candle stand is in front of a nice background wall
  • You can make a small presentation to each honoree (like planting a tree in Israel)

Blessing for a Bat Mitzvah Girl

Hebrew:

Bat Mitzvah blessing

Bat Mitzvah Blessing from Milechai.com

מי שברך אבותינו אברהם יצחק ויעקב שרה רבקה רחל ולאה הוא יברך את ___________ בת __________ שמלאו לה שתים עשרה שנה והגיעה למצוות, ונותנה שבח והודיה להשם יתברך על כל הטוב שגמל אותה. ישמרה הקדוש ברוך הוא וחיה, ויכונן את לבה להיות שלם עם ה’ וללכת בדרכיו ולשמור מצוותיו כל הימים ונאמר אמן

Transliteration:
Mi Sheberakh avoteinu, Avraham Yitzchak v’Ya’akov, Sarah Rivkah Rachel v’Leah, hu y’varekh et __________ bat __________ shemalu la sh’taimesrah shanah v’higi’ah l’mitzvot, v’notnah shebach v’hodiah l’hashem yitbarakh al khol hatov shegamal otah. Yishmarah hakadosh barukh hu v’chayah, v’yikhonen et libah lihi’ot shalem im Adonai, v’lalechet bedarkheinu v’lishmor mitzvotav khol hayamim, v’nomar amen.

English:
May the One who blessed our forefathers Abraham, Issac and Jacob, and our foremothers Sarah, Rebekah, Rachel and Leah, bless ____________ daughter of ______________ who is twelve years old and has reached the age of the commandments. She gives praise and thanksgiving to Almighty God for all the good that God has done to her. May God keep her and sustain her, and direct her heart to be whole, and to walk in God’s ways and follow God’s commandments all of her days. And let us say Amen.

What Judaism is all about…

Bat Mitzvah Gift

Bat Mitzvah Gift from Uniqueketuba.com

There is a story about a hassidic Rabbi, who was once teaching five years old boys in a small village in Russia to learn the Hebrew ABC – Aleph, Bet, Gimmel.  It happened that one day, one of the boys forgot to bring his ink bottle and asked the boy at his side for some of his. “No,” replied the latter. “I haven’t enough; you should have brought from home.” So the first boy had to ask someone else.

The teacher noticed this and said nothing, but a half hour later he asked the second boy if he could show the class an Aleph, a Bet and a Gimmel . “Of course,” answered the child as he pointed in one of his books. “This is an Aleph, this a Bet, and this a Gimmel.”
“No,” said the teacher. “You are wrong.”
The boy was confused. “But teacher” he said, “this is what you taught us… this is what we have been reading for the last two years!”
“No,” the teacher repeated. “You are wrong.”
“Aleph is: When your friend asks you for ink, you give it to him.
“Bet is: When your friend asks for ink, you give it to him.
“Gimmel is: When your friend asks for ink, you give it to him.”

Friends and family, thank you for joining ____ and the rest of our family in this joyous occasion.  ________ , today you are the most important person here.  Today, you have entered the Jewish community as a responsible woman.  You have spent a lot of time preparing and learning for your Bat Mitzvah.  And certainly you have leant to recognize the letters Aleph, Bet and Gimmel, but as this anecdote teaches us, it isn’t the letter of the law that is important, but the spirit of the law.

The spirit of Jewish law tells us – when your friend asks for ink, you give it to him.  Or in other words, it tells us to care about those around, be kind and considerate of them and try to help them out in times of need. There is a Hebrew word for that – it is called Chesed. Chesed , or loving kindness, is perhaps one of the ultimate values to which Jews should strive…

This is an excerpt from a mother’s speech to her daughter on her Bat Mitzvah, we write many different types of Bat Mitzvah speeches. Please Be in touch with our helpful and friendly speech writers to discuss your Bat Mitzvah speech!


Bat Mitzvah research project ideas and tips

Bat Mitzvah research project

Bat Mitzvah research project

Hannah, mother of 4 girls who lives in Israel, recently celebrated her second daughter’s Bat Mitzvah.  When she was considering how to mark this special occasion, she knew that her daughters’ Bat Mitzvah preparation was much more important to her than the details of the party.  She wanted her daughters to grow as Jewish women from the Bat Mitzvah experience.

Jewish women heroine research project
A year before her oldest daughter Rachel’s Bat Mitzvah, Hannah found a woman tutor to learn with her.   Rachel and her tutor decided to learn about Jewish women heroines from Biblical times to modern times.  Together they delved into Biblical text and studied classical and modern commentators to get a real understanding of who the biblical women heroines were, what motivated them, what were their personal strengths and weaknesses.  They also studied the life and biographies of post-biblical Jewish women heroines like Donna Gracia Mendes (Middle Ages Spanish philanthropist), Hannah Senesh (Israeli parachutist during WWII) and Nechama Leibowitz (teacher of a generation of rabbi’s and Jewish educators).  In addition, Rachel interviewed family members to gather information about her four great-grandmothers, her two grandmothers, her great aunt after whom she was named and her mom.  In her Bat Mitzvah speech, Rachel reflected on her Bat Mitzvah research project, she connected the qualities that she learned about from women in Jewish History to her family members, and discussed in what ways she would try and emulate them, as she takes her place in the chain of Jewish women.

Learning your families roots
Hannah’s second daughter, Arielle, celebrated her Bat Mitzvah on Parshat Lech Lecha, the Torah portion which describes Abraham’s arrival and travels in the land of Israel.  Hannah returned to her tutor, and asked her to learn with Arielle.  They discussed the family roots, and discovered that Arielle’s grandfather had made Aliyah to Israel from Iraq, the same Mesopotamian area where Abraham may have come from, and decided that it would be particularly meaningful to connect the family history, to that of the first Jewish patriarch.  Arielle and her tutor started learning about the land of Israel and the ancient biblical sites that Abraham visited.  After learning about each biblical site, they went out and visited them; taking photo’s that they would put in Arielle’s Bat Mitzvah scrapbook.  In her Bat Mitzvah speech, Arielle spoke the qualities of Abraham- acts of kindness, faith, and love of the land of Israel,  and how her grandfather exhibited similar qualities throughout his life.  Each table at the Bat Mitzvah had a marker of location in Israel that Abraham visited, along with photos of Arielle at these locations.

Other ideas for Bat Mitzvah research project
Here are just a few ideas for you to consider for your daughter’s Bat Mitzvah research project.

•    My Jewish name – studying about Jewish women who have the same name as I do
•    A mitzvah – choosing a mitzvah to study about like lighting Friday night candles, making challah or giving charity
•    A festival – if you are celebrating your daughter’s Bat Mitzvah around a festival it is nice for her to research it
•    Women in my family – tracing the Jewish women chain of generations, this can involve a genealogy project, interviewing women family members, archive research etc.
•    My Jewish community – tracing the roots of your Jewish community
•    A Book – reading in depth a biblical, classic or modern Jewish book, and reporting back on it
•    The weekly torah portion – learning in depth, and commenting on the stories, commandments and eternal message of the portion.

If you have other ideas of research projects, or you did something interesting – we’d love to hear about it!  Please tell us about it in the comment box below…

Chesed and Tikkun Olam on your Bat Mitzvah!

Chesed project from the US.orgChesed (kindness) is in fact one of the most important pillars of Judaism, so what better way to celebrate your Bat Mitzvah by doing Chesed and showing responsibility to members of our community who are in need.  Here are some ideas that you can use your Bat Mitzvah to demonstrate the value of caring for others, and social responsibility (Tikkun Olam).

  • Design your own invitations and photocopy them instead of having them printed.  The money that you have saved on printing you can donate to one of your favorite causes.
  • Prepare some sort of marathon or tournament with other Bat Mitzvah girls and donate sponsorship money to one of your favorite causes.
  • Prepare a show with other bat mitzvah girls and perform it in a children’s ward or Old Age home
  • Make a bat mitzvah drive to collect old toys, clothes, canned goods and deliver it to a worthy institution.
  • Instead of a big party, celebrate your Bat Mitzvah with your family, and invite a few close friends to a creative night in which you make your own Havdalah set or other item of Judaica.  Give some of the money you might have used for a big party to Tzedaka.
  • Twin yourself with a girl that does not have the means to celebrate her Bat Mitzvah.  For more on twinning check the AMIT, One Family and WFJSCH websites.
  • Take on a Bat Mitzvah project in which you commit to spending a certain amount of hours volunteering with a child/school/kindergarten/family or soup kitchen that can use your help.

Repairing the world, one bandage at a time!
The Areyvut organization profiles Bar Mitzvah and Bat Mitzvah kids who made a difference.  On their website you can read about Shira Kitay who is a student at the Martin J. Gottlieb Day School in Jacksonville, FL.

For her Bat Mitzvah project decided to donate band-aids to the Wolfson Children’s Hospital in Jacksonville, FL and Hadassah Hospital in Jerusalem, Israel. Shira held a contest to design band-aids that would give children who are hospitalized hope, or at least a smile.  She spent many hours preparing for this project and has used a portion of the money she received for her Bat Mitzvah to help put the program into action.