Customs before a Brit

Traditional customs said before the bris

Traditional customs said before the bris

Tikun Eliyahu

The Tikun Eliyahu (also called Leil Shimurim – night of vigil or Vechnacht) takes place on the night before the Brit Milah. The idea is to have a night of Torah study beside the baby’s crib. This custom is based on the notion that a newborn should not be left unattended during his first week of life, since his life is considered to be in danger until after his bris milah.

Verses: Some people also have the custom to bring young children to recite the ‘Shema ’ prayer and the verse ‘Hamalach hagoel oti’ by the baby’s bedside. These verses are considered to protect the child from harm before the Brit.

An explanation for the recitation of these particular verses is that through reciting them, the children declare their belief in God, in the presence of the newborn. In this way, they welcome him into the Jewish nation, just hours before he will enter into the covenant of Abraham.

In ancient times, when circumcision was forbidden by Greek and Roman rulers, this gathering on the night before the baby’s brit milah, was also meant to mislead the authorities – and cause them to believe that this was the extent of the intended celebrations, and that no circumcision was planned for the following day.

Brit Yitzchak

The Brit Yizchak is also known as the Leil Hazohar (Night of radiance) or the Akad-al-Yas (Binding of the myrtles).This custom is common in Sephardic communities, is also tied to the protection of the newborn. On the night before the bris, family and friends gather in the house of the newborn (or his grandparents’) and recite midrashim, stories, and laws in Aramaic, from the Zohar. The baby’s father reads a paragraph, which speaks of the father’s obligation to circumcise his son. Afterwards, all the guests enjoy a meal together, and sing and dance by candlelight. Some people have the custom to bring the ‘Chair of Elijah’, which will be used at the bris, to the house, and to tie myrtle branches onto it.

Shalom – farewell, zachar – memory!

The Shalom Zachar is a celebration of the birth of a baby boy on the friday night after his birth

The Shalom Zachar is a celebration of the birth of a baby boy on the friday night after his birth

According to the Talmud, when the child forms is in his/her mother’s womb, an Angel teaches him Torah. However, once the child is born to the world, the angel pats him on above his mouth and the child forgets it all – this pat leaves a mark on our top lip.

The newborn child’s mission over the course of his/her life is to relearn all that he had once known.  This Midrash is symbolic of the transition from a spiritual world into the physical world that we know it.  This Midrash has been suggested as one of the reasons for the name of the Shalom Zochor (Shalom – farewell to zicharon – memory).

The Shalom Zochor is also considered a meal customarily eaten by a mourner, (at which he also eats round foods, like chickpeas). This is because our joy over birth is intermingled with mourning over the baby’s emergence from the spiritual environment of the womb.  The baby mourns this loss of Torah, and the community, which shares in his mourning, undertakes to assist him in the process of study and recollection.

What is a shalom zachar?

The Shalom Zachar is a celebration of the birth of a baby boy on the friday night after his birth
The Shalom Zachar is a celebration of the birth of a baby boy on the friday night after his birth

After dinner on the first Friday night after a baby boy is born, it is customary to invite friends and family to a “Sholom Zochor/ Shalom Zachar”. This is loosely translated as “a time for wishing peace to the male child.” The Sholom Zochor is usually held in the home of the newborn. Refreshments are served, divrei Torah are shared, and often songs are sung.

There are several explanations for the custom of sholom zochor:

•    At the sholom zochor we offer thanks to G-d that the baby was born safe and sound.
•    Talmudic literature tells us (Niddah 30b) that in the mother’s womb, a baby is taught the whole of Torah. As he is born he forgets all that he has learnt. Another explanation for the Sholom Zochor is connected to this – we come to console the child who has just forgotten all the Torah.
•    According to kabbalah, a child is not ready to be circumcised until he has experienced a Shabbat. Judaism believes that Shabbat provides the infant with the spiritual power necessary to enter into a lasting covenant with God. This is one of the  reasons why the brit is on the eight day, to ensure that a Shabbat passes. For this reason we make a special celebration on the Shabbat after the baby is born.

There is a custom to serve chickpeas or lentils at a Sholom Zochor, as they are round food and represent the cycle of life.

Customs in the week before the Bris

Brit Yitzchak

Brit Yitzchak

Shalom Zachor

On the Friday night after a baby’s birth (and before his circumcision) Ashkenazi Jews often invite friends and family to join them after the meal to mark the birth. Food, drink, words of Torah and song are shared.

Traditions: Often chickpeas and round lentils are served as they are symbolic of fertility and of the cycle of life. One Hebrew name for chickpeas is “arbis” and tradition connects this word symbolically to God’s promise to Abraham, “I shall multiply (arbe) your seed like the stars of the Heavens (Genesis 22:17).”

Reasons for Shalom Zochor: There are a few reasons for the custom of a Shalom Zachar. It is considered thanksgiving for the birth of the baby. It is also an opportunity to include the baby in an occasion marked by Torah and song, and to spiritually integrate him into the Jewish people even before his Bris Milah.

For more information on Shalom Zachor click here.

Tikun Eliyahu

The Tikun Eliyahu (also called Leil Shimurim – night of vigil or Vechnacht) takes place on the night before the Bris Milah. The idea is to have a night of Torah study beside the baby’s crib. This custom is based on the notion that a newborn should not be left unattended during his first week of life, since his life is considered to be in danger until after his bris milah.

Verses: Some people also have the custom to bring young children to recite the ‘Shema ’ prayer and the verse ‘Hamalach hagoel oti’ by the baby’s bedside. These verses are considered to protect the child from harm before the Brit.

An explanation for the recitation of these particular verses is that through reciting them, the children declare their belief in God, in the presence of the newborn. In this way, they welcome him into the Jewish nation, just hours before he will enter into the covenant of Abraham.

In ancient times, when circumcision was forbidden by Greek and Roman rulers, this gathering on the night before the baby’s brit milah, was also meant to mislead the authorities – and cause them to believe that this was the extent of the intended celebrations, and that no circumcision was planned for the following day.

Brit Yitzchak

The Brit Yizchak is also known as the Leil Hazohar (Night of radiance) or the Akad-al-Yas (Binding of the myrtles).This custom is common in Sephardic communities, is also tied to the protection of the newborn. On the night before the bris, family and friends gather in the house of the newborn (or his grandparents’) and recite midrashim, stories, and laws in Aramaic, from the Zohar. The baby’s father reads a paragraph, which speaks of the father’s obligation to circumcise his son. Afterwards, all the guests enjoy a meal together, and sing and dance by candlelight. Some people have the custom to bring the ‘Chair of Elijah’, which will be used at the bris, to the house, and to tie myrtle branches onto it.

Torah verses connected to the birth of a boy

Blessing the boys

Blessing the boys

Jacob’s blessing to his grandsons (From Genesis 48:16)

May the angel who has delivered me from all harm bless these boys. May they carry on my name and the names of my fathers, Abraham and Isaac, and may they grow into a multitude on earth.

הַמַּלְאָךְ הַגֹּאֵל אֹתִי מִכָּל-רָע, יְבָרֵךְ אֶת-הַנְּעָרִים, וְיִקָּרֵא בָהֶם שְׁמִי, וְשֵׁם אֲבֹתַי אַבְרָהָם וְיִצְחָק, וְיִדְגּוּ לָרֹב בְּקֶרֶב הָאָרֶץ.

Hamalach hagoel oti mikol ra yevarech et han’arim vikareh bahem sh’mi
V’shem avotai Avraham v’Yizchak v’yidgu larov b’kerev ha’aretz.

Jacob’s blessing to his grandsons (From Genesis 48:20)

May God make you like Ephraim and Menashe

ישימך אלוקים כאפרים וכמנשה

Y’simcha Elohim k’Efrayim v’che-Menasheh

Priestly blessing (From Numbers 6:23-27.)

May God bless you and guard you
May God make His face shine on you and show favor to you
May God lift up His face on you and give you peace

יברכך ה’ וישמרך, יאר ה’ פניו אליך ויחונך, ישא ה’ פניו אליך וישם לך שלום

Yevarechecha Hashem VeYishmerech, Ya’er hashem Panav Elacha ve’yichunecha, Yisa hashem panav elecha ve’Yasem Lecha Shalom.