A brief and tentative itinerary

It’s been a while since I, BATmom, the Surprising Superhero have had a moment to visit my blog to post my rantings.  Instead, I have gone through the past month of Chagim, post chagim and more chagim with the above rantings circulating my head, desperately pleading to get out!  Well, here I am, finally putting some of my thoughts down – the rest will have to stay put until the time is right!

Bat Mitzvah mom sighs...

Bat Mitzvah mom sighs...

Most importantly, its time to update you all about BATgirl’s Bat Mitzvah plans.  In a previous posting I revealed that this year, the BATfamily will be partaking in a multifaceted journey in which we will explore some of the Bat Mitzvah messages to which a Bat Mitzvah girl should be exposed.  I have spent some time thinking about the messages that I would like to put forward to BATgirl and I have finally made a plan which will allow us to uncover those messages from fun, experiential and meaningful angles.  We live in Israel, so in 6 day trips, our family will be visiting places and people (within reasonable traveling distance) that will have a message to share.  Below is a very brief and tentative itinerary.  The order of the experiences below is purely based on logistics and convenience.

 

Bat Mitzvah itinerary

Bat Mitzvah day trip itinerary

Outing number 1 – the purpose of this outing is to think about the difference that a single individual can make with his/her actions, it is a place where we will explore the importance of having pride and commitment to our nation and our Jewish identity.  This place is Har Herzl.

Outing number 2 – the purpose of this outing will be to hear the ancient story of Jerusalem, the 3000 year old capital of the Jewish people, and so we will be visiting the Kotel Tunnels.

Outing number 3 – this outing will take place just after Chanukah, a festival when we dwell on heroism, perseverance and striving through the dark to reach the light.  We will have a chance to think about all of that, during our visit to Machon Ayalon.

 

Sort of unrelated pic, but I thought I would post it anyway :)

Outing number 4- the purpose of this outing is to explore our family roots- all the way to the ancient source – the Biblical Patriarchs and Matriarchs.  Therefore we will be visiting Ma’arat HaMachpela.

Outing number 5 – “Only with the heart can one see right.” Antoine de Saint Exupéry, The Little Prince.  Keeping that in mind, we will be visiting the Holon’s Children Blind museum.  We will also be thinking about how each of us has our own difficulties, and how we should relate to our personal challenges.

Outing number 6 – is to a yet – undisclosed location.  But we can reveal to you that the tour guide will be BATgirl’s Saba – who also likes to call himself Sponge-Da.  Sponge-Da will be taking BATgirl and her classmates to one of the places that he is involved with supporting, and at this location the girls will have an opportunity to partake in a Chesed project. The purpose of this outing will be to think about, and act on, the imperative of looking after the people around us who need our help.

 

Learning about helping people our

Learning about helping people out

So there you have 6 day trips that the BATFamily will be making over the next few months.  These outings represent 6 Bat Mitzvah messages, which will be reinforced in the Bat Mitzvah ceremony.  I promise that we’ll talk about the ceremony another time, although I will say now that we will dwell on what it means to be a Jewish woman, the chain of Jewish generations and our family.

There are many, many important messages out there that I couldn’t fit into the itinerary – wherever you are in the world, I would love to hear where you would take your daughter to learn a Bat Mitzvah message – please feel free to tell me in the comment box below.

 

 

Mayor Rahm Emanuel on Bar and Bat Mitzvah’s

Too often Bar and Bat Mitzvah parents get their proverbial knickers in a knot over details like the hall, the catering, the DJ, the invitations, the theme and the fashion.  There is certainly a time and place for the Bar or Bat Mitzvah party – but is this really what a Bar or Bat Mitzvah is all about? Do we want to give our children the message that being Bnei Mitzvah is about throwing an dazzling affair that will  impress and outdo our neighbours?

 

Bar/Bat Mitzvah party mom with lots to do...

Bar/Bat Mitzvah party mom with lots to do...

We can all take inspiration from one of the most prominent Jews in the USA today – Chicago Mayor and former White House Chief of Staff Rahm Immanuel. The following paragraphs are from Suntimes.com and is based on his recent speech to the Jewish Federation.

“The night before their Bar Mitzvahs, my brother, Ari, and I took our two sons to the [Wailing] Wall to recite the prayer, ‘Who are you, if you are not for yourself? What are you if you are only for yourself? And if not now, when?’ The same prayer my father said to me on my Bar Mitzvah,” Emanuel said.

“And that really is the spirit, the culture, the philosophical outlook of the [Jewish Federation]. Yes, you have to make sure that no Jew suffers either hunger, homelessness or any of the economic hardships of life. But, our work does not stop at the borders of our own community.”

The mayor’s daughter, Ilana, got a chance to walk that walk after celebrating her Bat Mitzvah recently. Emanuel said he and his wife, Amy, “don’t allow parties for Bat Mitzvah.” Instead, Ilana Emanuel worked with KaBoom — a national non-profit — to plan and build a playground for homeless children at A Safe Haven’s transitional living facility at 2750 W. Roosevelt.

“We’ve taught our kids that the most important thing they can do for their Bar or Bat Mitzvah is to give something back. And in an afternoon, an entire playground went up … 250 people. She organized 130 of ’em. That was her Bat Mitzvah party,” the mayor said. “It’s a time for celebration. But [also] a time to learn that first lesson in life: You have something special. Do something for those who are in a time of need. That is what it means to be Jewish.”

 

We all know the that if there are two Jews, there will be three opinions. Do you agree with Emanuel’s take on the Bar/Bat Mitzvah message? Do you think there is an even more important message to convey to a Bar or Bat Mitzvah child?

Bar/Bat Mitzvah message

Bar/Bat Mitzvah message